…and if they DO tell you, you won’t believe them.
Well…I went and had a kid.
Now, I don’t want to start yammering on about what labour and c-sections are like, so don’t worry…but I DID want to go through some of the things that you just don’t hear often enough, or believe even when people tell you…for starters–
1. You really DO want to yammer on about labour and c-sections…but I won’t.
2. They tell you that your life will change, irrevocably, but you don’t realise that truth until it happens to you.
Yeah, it sounds silly, doesn’t it? Of COURSE your life will change! You know that, right? Wrong. You don’t know until it happens, and when it happens, you can’t believe it.
3. You worry about hurting the baby, especially at first.
Am I holding him right? What if I drop him? tThis disapates once you get used to handling your baby. However, then, other random scenarios will sporadically pop into your head. What if I trip coming down the stairs while holding him? What if something falls on his head while he’s playing on the floor? This will never really go away–so I’ve been told.
4. You want to/will cry when your health visitor/midwife/doctor tells you that your baby isn’t putting on enough weight.
It feels like a slap across the face with a 1-2 punch to the gut. You feel like you’re not taking care of your child. Other parents will tell you that it is not the end of the world–your kid could be a slow grower, or just small, and that it’s just a chart someome made up, for Pete’s sake! But–it still sucks when you hear it.
5. You can get lonely.
If you don’t make friends with some of the mommies in whichever classes you take your kid to, you’re going to get lonely. Basically, it is just you and the kid for most of the day–so, try and make as many play dates and get-together’s as possible. To tie into this–be aware that you will most likely SUCK at responding to emails and getting back to people. In the beginning, you might not even know what day it is. Also, some friends will be there for you no matter what, and others might leave you be. Having a kid is a life-changing thing, and some people won’t really get that. That’s just life though, I guess.
6. You won’t feel like yourself any more.
Ok, so this sorta goes with ‘things change’, but it’s way more personal. Yoor mind works differently. You notice that maybe you’re more patient, or more diligent, or that you get flustered way more than you thought–any bevy of new character traits may arise or be magnified. Also, your body has been through something totally nutso. Hormones are CRAZY and physically you’re SO run down and puffed out. You’re not used to not being pregnant, and you’re not what you were pre-pregnancy. It makes you feel like you don’t know who you are anymore.
ADDITION: In addendum to the above, you sortof end up feeling like the queen of a whole new world–one where you’re expected to know what to do at all times, and how to do it. You’re expected to know the language, and answer all questions. But you don’t know the language, and it’s hard to learn! But you, you’re still responsible for SO much that it does completely change you. How you perceive, how you act, and how you handle situations.